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My plan was to take a quick trip to BJ’s and get home so LAL could play outside for a bit. We’ve been at BJ’S for 45 minutes but have yet to venture inside. They’re all sleeping. So much for a quick trip.

Anyway, a couple of days ago Liam and Audrey both used words that I deem unacceptable. First, Audrey was taking her headband out of hair and said, “Ugh stupid thing”! I was horrified. I’ve been wracking my brain wondering if I use that phrase often. I honestly don’t think I do.

Second, was Liam. I was driving and the person in front of me was driving ridiculously slow. I said out loud, “Ugh why are you driving so slow?” And Liam said, “What did you said mommy?” I repeated myself. His reply was, “You should kill him.” I nearly pulled off the road.

I consciously watch my words as I speak them, knowing my children are listening to them all. I do sometimes speak more freely (when on the phone) if they are in another room. I forget their little brains are hypersensitive to my voice and I’m sure, as long as, we’re in the same house they probably hear what I say.

I also realize that when they are at the YMCA playroom they are probably hearing all sorts of things. Words I can’t control.

In both cases, I told them those words are unacceptable and if I web them again they’ll be in time out. Part of me thinks I should have calmly explained there are certain words that we shouldn’t say because they are hurtful and such. But because they are only three years old. I went with what I thought would get results. I believe right now my munchkins live in extremes. Being in time out is something they don’t enjoy. And since the time out threat, the word haven’t come back, at least not in my presence. How do you handle unacceptable language in your home?

Better Late Than Never

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I did it…WE did it! Last weekend, some of my teammates and I finally finished the Boston Marathon.

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My friend and teammate Jackie, set it up so that we started where our last team member was pulled off the course

I’m thankful. I’m thankful that not one of my teammates or our families were physically injured. I’m thankful for our team and the bond we share, there is no other team like us. We care for each other, we love each other and there is not much we wouldn’t do for each other. We all have different and unique stories about how we came to run for Tedy’s team. I do not believe in luck and I do not believe in coincidence, I believe everything happens for a reason. Often growing up my mom would say, “People are in your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.” With us we’ve rolled all three into one. Our reason, to get us through this tragedy. Our season, what else but marathon training season. Our lifetime, knowing we are forever bonded by the senseless acts of Marathon Monday 2013 and our beautiful acts of healing, like running across the finish line hand in hand.

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Like making sure Melinda was a part of the day, because she was committed to teach for a fundraiser

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All in all, it was a day of healing and closure and most importantly, love and light.

My Letter of Gratitude

Here we are two weeks post marathon Monday. When I think about what I had wanted this message to say and what I will actually type I am still baffled. I had expected to be typing this the night of the marathon, full of exhaustion and excitement and a photo of me with my second Boston Marathon medal, as well as my finishing time. Needless to say, that didn’t work out. So here I am two weeks later and feeling like I am of sound mind to express my gratitude and tell my story. Here it goes:

I was running with my “sole”sister Melissa. I met Melissa at our first Tedy’s Team training run in November of 2011, since that first run we have run a ridiculous number of miles side by side. Running a marathon is hard work, mentally and physically. There are some things that make it a bit easier, like the crowds screaming your name and telling you look strong. There are people that are kind enough to handout, what I call, little pieces of heaven (wrapped twizzlers and jolly ranchers). Some people make witty signs that I couldn’t help but giggle at. Those are a couple of examples from strangers along the course. We know once we get to mile 20 our coach John will be waiting for us with words of encouragement and anything else we need. If you know the course, mile 20 is Heartbreak Hill, a welcome moment on the course to see someone I know and knows exactly what I’m going through. Seeing John gave me the push I needed to get to 21, where I knew I would see David, my parents, my cousin and Melissa’s family. Seeing them was a great moment, lots of hugs, lots of smiles, lots of support. I needed it. My quads were shot, my hamstrings weren’t far behind and we only had 5.2 miles to go. We looked at each other and said let’s get this done. Off we went.

Around mile 23 there was a woman standing in the middle of the road speaking to a marathon volunteer ( this is an assumption, he was in a yellow marathon jacket) she was saying something about the finish line and to stop runners. Melissa and I were both trying to figure out what she was talking about but quickly let it go. We had business to take care of. Then we saw someone running with a friend of his, the friend was in fatigues but no pack. We heard him say something about the finish line and explosion but they were running faster than us so we didn’t get the whole story. Again, we had business to take care of, we kept running. Next we saw a teammate of ours and she told us to stop running because the course was closed. We still didn’t understand what was happening so we kept running. This was the Boston Marathon, we could not just “stop running.” Well apparently we could, and we did. The next few bits are a bit foggy and I will probably tell them out of order but I know you will understand.

We were stopped dead in our tracks. There were runners all around us not really knowing what to do, including ourselves. Within a few minutes we had seen a former teammate of ours and some current members. Because of that we had a good idea where people were. I have known no worse feeling than not knowing if my husband, parents and cousin (whom I’ve been trying to get to visit me for 10 plus years) were harmed. I was able to get in touch with David via text so he knew I was ok and I knew he and my family were safe. Thankfully, I run with my phone on airplane mode so I had a decent amount of battery left. I got one phonecall off to my dearest Heather before they jammed the signals. Then communication was solely via text. Melissa’s boyfriend James and his family are members of the Harvard Club. As the universe would have it, we were stopped about five doors from there. We let our teammates know that’s where we were headed and to meet there, if needed. After a failed first attempt to enter Melissa, Liza and I walked right in without issue. They had sheets on the front counter which helped to regulate our body temperatures slightly. Someone there for a meeting or something told us there was food on the next floor and to help ourselves. A family visiting from out of town, kindly went to their car and got us food and something to drink, as well. Angels. Our teammate, Renee’s husband Jeremiah had met up with her on the course and were with us in the Harvard Club, another angel. Without him I’m not sure what we would have done. He had his wits about him and was as cool as a cucumber in another wise chaotic situation. He got in touch with James and coordinated our pick up on Storrow Drive. We retrieved my car fron Newton and Jeremiah drove us home. Simultaneously, David’s coworker had picked him and my family up in the South End and drove them back to the South Shore. Someone asked me this morning how long it took to get home. I had not thought about it. I have know idea. All I know is when I had my son in my arms, crying into his hair it was still light out. Seeing David, LAL, my mom and dad, CC, Randi, and Adele was such a beautiful sight.

I still don’t understand why anyone would want to turn such a wonderful day of triumph and accomplishment into such tragedy. I’m sure I never will.

I am thankful to everyone that has supported me in taking on this challenge. But there are a few people I have to send a special thank you to. My dearest Heather and dearest Randi, there aren’t enough words out there for you two, I love you! My “sole” sister Melissa, who knew getting lost would lost on a run would turn into such a beautiful friendship. My sweet Toni, I am eternally grateful, thank you for expecting me and dancing me back into the light. And the love of my life, David, you deal with an awful lot during training season, I am blessed to have you, thank you for being my rock! XOXO

New Year, New You (Well Me)?

Happy New Year! It’s 2013, I can’t believe it. I haven’t blogged since I landed in Kansas City back in November. Once we got home life happened, holidays happened and my triplet life was happening. It’s good to be back. My children will be three next month. Six days after their birthday I’ll be 36. I’ve survived. We’ve survived. Everywhere I look, I feel like, I see some type of advertisement for “New Year, New You.” And it’s got me thinking.

When I was pregnant, David and I took a parenting multiples course to prepare us for, well, parenting multiples. It didn’t. It scared the heck out of us, to be honest. The first bullet point on the handout was, “Parents of multiples are 50% more likely to get divorced than that of singletons.” That’s a great way to start a class, as if we weren’t scared sh*tless to begin with. The instructor then proceeded to go through some of her experiences as a mother of twins and would look at David and I and say, “Yeah that will be three times for you guys.” She talked about how, essentially, there wouldn’t be enough hours in a day to diaper, feed, and raise multiples. I tell people it was the worst class we could have taken but looking back maybe it helped us. Maybe just maybe, she was going for the whole reverse psychology thing. I’m actually just realizing this as I’m typing, I think that was her plan. It was her challenge to us as parents to not become a statistic.

35 weeks in utero and just about three years postpartum, we are not her opening statistic. We’re actually doing this parenting thing pretty well. So far we have risen to the occasion, it has not always been easy, it has not always been fun but it has always been rewarding. When I hear my kids say please and thank you, without me prompting them, I know we’re doing something right. When one of my kids is crying and the other two come to make sure everything is ok, I know we’re doing something right. When my kids show others how much they love them, I know we’re doing something right. We are constantly in motion, figuring out what works and what doesn’t work. Our family is a “work in progress”, ever changing to fit the needs of our lives.

New year, new you (well me)? I think it’s more like “new day, new me and new day same me.” Does that make sense? I can’t wait until January first of every year to try and reinvent myself. It has to be an ongoing process. Some things stay the same and some change.

Most Useful Monday: Patience and Going with the Flow

My iPad says 3:56 PM,I don’t know if its eastern or central time. I’ve been up since about 4:15 AM and the kids since close to 5. Our first flight from Boston left at 7:40 AM to Chicago.

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Traveling with three toddlers is nothing short of fun, exhausting, and stressful all at the same time. We arrived to the airport with what I thought was plenty of time to get to the gate but between security, a bathroom break and little legs we got to the gate 10 minutes prior to departure. Once we got there the gate agent was none too happy when I told her the seats we were given weren’t together and I had small children. I’m pretty sure her words went something like, “you expect me to do this 10 minutes before the flight? You gotta get here earlier.” To which my response was, “Believe me, I was here, I have triplets.” I really wanted to give her a big fat “F YOU” but thought better of for a couple of reasons. First, I wanted to make it to KC on time. Second, I have to lead by example and I have to constantly remind myself of that! Anyway, she got us on with seats together. I’m grateful for that. Leg one went off without a hitch. Lily and my mom (thank goodness for her) were together and I was between Audrey and Liam.

Next, a long ass layover in Chicago. It was originally two hours but turned into three +. My mom is a United Sky thing member so we were able to spend the majority of the layover there. Liam loves flying and airplanes. He kept going back and forth to the window to check out the planes.

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All three loved riding the shuttle (which they called a bus) to change terminals which I thought was funny. Maybe it’s because of the song.

Finally, our flight to KC

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I started this post on the plane but I am just getting to finish it tonight. I posted a version of this photograph on Facebook and my best friend commented, “First class, nice…” Or something similar. I couldn’t help but laugh my butt off when I read it. We definitely were not in first class, the plane only had three seats per row!!! I was sitting across the aisle from Audrey and Liam. When I first heard there were only seats A, B, and C, I was pissed. In my mind there was NO way my two year olds were going to be fine with sitting by themselves on an airplane. Boy, was I WRONG!!!!! My kids are rock stars!!! They handled take off and landing like champs. Granted I was able to reach across and hold Liam’s hand when he needed me too. I was floored to be completely honest.

This morning was our first time out of the house since we arrived. It was freezing but we needed the fresh air and they loved walking the streets of Country Club Plaza.

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I don’t think I need to explain why patience and going with the flow are useful but I will say there were a couple of things that helped. First, a whole bunch of snacks and gum. Second, the dollar aisle at Target! Third, my iPhone and our iPads</a. And last, individual backpacks. The backpacks really were key (eternally grateful to, one of my nearest and dearest, Jen) I was able to separate all their things and not have to keep digging in my bag. We all did really well and I’m happy we’re not flying for another two weeks 😃.

Halloween Fun

Halloween 2012 was a success. In true Kristi fashion, I was up late on Cabbage Night putting the finishing touches on LAL’s costumes. As was pinning painting and hot glue gunning, I thought to myself, “why on earth do I do this to myself?” As much as I like to think I can plan things out and get them done with time to spare, it’s just not the reality. I think I work better under pressure. Cutting it close gives me less time to second guess myself, I guess. I started their costumes a few weeks ago and kept them under lock and key until Halloween morning. They knew what the were each going to be but I wanted them to be surprised by the costume itself. They were! When they came downstairs and saw them laid out on the couch they couldn’t wait to put them on! Here they are, Lily as Zoe

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Audrey as Abby Cadabby

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And Liam as Elmo

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They loved their costumes which made it all the doubts in my mind vanish instantly!

Halloween night was great fun. We went to my sister-in-laws house in Charlestown. At first, I was worried they would be nervous with all the kids and people trick or treating. Once they got the hang of it and realized people were giving them candy they had a ball!! They loved looking at the costumes. I purposely gave them small bags to trick or treat with so I wouldn’t have to deal with a ton of candy. My plan originally was to give them each a piece of candy for the number of years alive. So they would each get two pieces. Yeah that went out the window! I did keep it in check though, they each had about four pieces before I stuck to my guns and said no. They were off the wall!!! It was a cute kind of crazy but not one I want to see regularly. I took the candy and hid it. They each got one piece last night and the rest is going to be trashed. Hopefully they’ve forgotten about it :-)

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Most Useful Monday: PeaPod (update)

Update 11/16/12: The CPC has issued a recall They are offering a remedy for consumers that have purchased their PeaPods.

When LAL were about ten months old we went to my mother- in- law’s house for a visit. We had been there for a while and the munchkins were getting cranky. The plan was to take them upstairs and put them down for a nap. There was only one problem there was nowhere to put them. They had outgrown the pack n play and I certainly was not going to buy two more to lug a total of three around. There were too many little bodies to set up a Great Wall of pillows around them on a bed and too many distractions to set up a cozy spot on the floor. They didn’t take a nap that day. No bueno. With the next free moment I had, I got to searching and found this:

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Amazing!!!! The PeaPod is by far one of the greatest pieces of gear we have. When you have three children the same age EVERYTHING is a process. Figuring out logistics make these processes go much smoother. Obviously we didn’t think of the logistics for the trip to Grammy’s house. Never would I go through that again. I love our PeaPods!! They are essentially pop up tents for munchkins. For $90 you get a Peapod, an air mattress, a pump (great arm workout), a sleeping bag and a carrying bag. I can have all three set up and easy to go in about 15 minutes. They’re lightweight and I can fit all three in a big bag when flying.

The one downfall is the material. Do you remember parachute pants for the 80′s? Do you remember the god awful sound they would make as you’d walk down the hall? If I can, I try to put the PeaPods in a different room than mine because every move made is heard. It’s a small price to pay or now that I think of it I could get earplugs :-)

LAL thoroughly enjoy them for the most part, they went through a short period of not loving them ( would still sleep in them) but quickly got over it. I always make sure to bring their pillow pets and one of their own blankets ( I haven’t used he sleeping bags yet) to make them more comfortable. Now they jump right in and get cozy!

Update 11/16/12: The CPC has issued a recall They are offering a remedy for consumers that have purchased their PeaPods.

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